Drifting Apart…

Why do people drift apart?

Life is often an eye opener to those around us. It speaks even when we don’t want to listen and just want to ignore what is happening around us. It is often a harsh reality that we only see when we are at our lowest point. It is also the sweetest thing that you can experience. 🙂

One thing that I’ve been thinking about lately is why some people drift apart and others don’t. There are a lot of reasons such as life itself, distance, work,etc. However, when it comes down to it, it is really how much effort one is willing to put into a relationship. It can be a friendship, a relationship or a family member.

I’ve known some people since high school and we don’t see each other often, yet when we do meet up or talk, it is as though we have known each other forever, and it hasn’t been six months since we’ve seen each other last. There are others that I knew for a short period of time and I felt like we were really close, then something happened and I barely see them now. What interests me is the fact that I am the one that is always trying to set something up or contacting them, yet nothing comes out of it. It is always the same response ” yeah we should meet up soon, it’s been a while”, “I haven’t seen you in ages, let’s meet up”. Although these responses say one thing, they are probably meaning an entirely different thing.

When one person is always attempting to meet up, or contacting the person first and the secondary person barely makes an effort, it most likely means they don’t want to be friends with you because they are not making any effort to keep the friendship alive. It just frustrates me that this happens to everyone on a daily basis and there is not much we can do about it. We can either keep on trying or just let go. Personally I am one of those people who will do quite a bit and wait quite a while before giving up. When others give someone two or three changes before giving up, I give a person a lot more. This does make it harder for me especially when I lose a friend, and it is not even my fault, but due to their lack of interest.

What do you guys do when someone you know is lacking interest in your relationship or has drifted from what you once had? Do you give up after a few tries or keep on trying?

Book Review: If I Tell

If I Tell by Janet Gurtler

Published: October 1, 2011

Publisher: Sourcebooks Fire

Source: Library

Synopsis (Goodreads): “It was like watching a train wreck. I wanted to look away but couldn’t take my eyes off them.” IF ONLY …If only I hadn’t gone to that party. I never would have seen what I did. Jackson wouldn’t have driven me home. I wouldn’t have started to fall for a guy just out of reform school. I could go back to pretending everything was normal. I wouldn’t be keeping a secret from my mom that could blow our family apart …

Personal Thoughts: This was one of those books that I had to put down when I finished it and think about it for a while. I have not read any books by Janet Gurtler before this and now that I have, I know that I have been missing out on a great author. Her writing invokes something deep within you, takes a grab of you and won’t let go, even after you have completed the book. It has a distict style that sometimes tells you everything and nothing at the same time. As soon as you started to read, you knew that something major had happened, yet you didn’t know what until later on in the book. That sense of suspense and mystery is there right from the start.

The main character, Jaz, caused herself quite a bit of stress and drama due to what she saw and couldn’t tell anyone. If she told someone about it, she would have saved herself a lot of heartache. Gurtler’s writing style is really unique and through it you able to see the inner struggle of Jaz and those around her. The family struggles, the interracial issues and her friends issues force Jaz to take a closer look of who she really is and evaluate her life, before moving on and trying for a fresh start. There are a few lessons that the author fits into the story to make us, the reader, think about our own views and perspectives and the world around us. This is a book that once it’s put down will still stay with you after you have finished reading it.

Rating: 3/5 Stars