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Drifting Apart…

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Why do people drift apart?

Life is often an eye opener to those around us. It speaks even when we don’t want to listen and just want to ignore what is happening around us. It is often a harsh reality that we only see when we are at our lowest point. It is also the sweetest thing that you can experience. 🙂

One thing that I’ve been thinking about lately is why some people drift apart and others don’t. There are a lot of reasons such as life itself, distance, work,etc. However, when it comes down to it, it is really how much effort one is willing to put into a relationship. It can be a friendship, a relationship or a family member.

I’ve known some people since high school and we don’t see each other often, yet when we do meet up or talk, it is as though we have known each other forever, and it hasn’t been six months since we’ve seen each other last. There are others that I knew for a short period of time and I felt like we were really close, then something happened and I barely see them now. What interests me is the fact that I am the one that is always trying to set something up or contacting them, yet nothing comes out of it. It is always the same response ” yeah we should meet up soon, it’s been a while”, “I haven’t seen you in ages, let’s meet up”. Although these responses say one thing, they are probably meaning an entirely different thing.

When one person is always attempting to meet up, or contacting the person first and the secondary person barely makes an effort, it most likely means they don’t want to be friends with you because they are not making any effort to keep the friendship alive. It just frustrates me that this happens to everyone on a daily basis and there is not much we can do about it. We can either keep on trying or just let go. Personally I am one of those people who will do quite a bit and wait quite a while before giving up. When others give someone two or three changes before giving up, I give a person a lot more. This does make it harder for me especially when I lose a friend, and it is not even my fault, but due to their lack of interest.

What do you guys do when someone you know is lacking interest in your relationship or has drifted from what you once had? Do you give up after a few tries or keep on trying?


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